Haunted by the past….it’s what victims of child abuse will, to some degree, be for the rest of their lives – regardless of all the years of counseling they may been through. However, counseling does help and is important. Our haunting may be in the form of difficulty making decisions because our emotional development was robbed of us during those crucial childhood years. It may be in the form of trying to please everyone, because you spent your entire childhood trying to please your abuser so that you could keep the peace in the household. These two actually may even go hand in hand..you can’t make a decision, because there is not one decision that keeps absolutely EVERYONE happy, including yourself. I have found this.. Read more
Victims of child abuse learn at a very early age how to tuck away their emotions into a BOX. Lid taped SHUT! Safe. Protected. Hidden from the world. It’s a coping mechanism that I was quite proud of. No one would ever know unless I told them. Why isn’t this a good idea? It’s because the sides of this BOX, where things have been so safely stored, are merely camouflage. Camouflage painted the color of GUILT, SHAME, UN-FORGIVENESS, MISTRUST, ANGER, LOW SELF-ESTEEM, CONTROL. Read more
I’m sure you have asked yourself a thousand times. Why ME? If there is a God, then why did I have to go through this? God teaches us to seek HIM. As sinful humans, our natural tendency is to seek only what pleases the body. In so doing, we frequently leave God out of our lives until we need Him. In John 16:33, God tells us that there will be storms in this life. Read more
Brokenness has many faces…greed, poverty, pride, broken relationships, loss of a loved one, illness, guilt, control- just to name a few. Some individuals will be on top of the world and have to be broken to see how lost they really are before seeking God. Some will start on the bottom and overcome circumstances, later to finally see how God was right there all along, guiding their destiny~ carrying them the whole way. Such as in the case of ABUSE.